Divorce Law Guide Articles.
By Johnette Duff
A frustrating lack of permanence plagues modern relationships. Approximately one of every two marriages ends in
divorce and the average length of a marriage before divorce is only five years. Many couples today chose
cohabitation over traditional marriage. What happened to the idealized family depicted in Father Knows Best, Leave
it To Beaver, The Donna Reed Show and Ozzie and Harriet?
No simple answer exists to this question: our intimate relationships have been affected by the industrialization
of society, urbanization, continued changes in the traditional roles of the sexes and greater economic independence
for women, a rise in the percentage of the population pursuing a college education, a lessening of social pressure
against couples who cohabit, the recognition of legal rights for llegitimate children, a decreasing birth rate,
improved birth control methods and a longer life expectancy. All these factors contribute to our alarming divorce
Is it any wonder the state ( literally, the state you live in and as, generically, any form of government) must
pass laws that affect our personal relationships as we struggle for answers?
You can take opposing views of the laws in our country. One argument is that they protect society and its
members, but the flip side contends they are a means of oppression. The laws that impact our intimate relationships
are not necessarily harmful or intrusive in and of themselves. However, forming a relationship without a working
knowledge of these laws and without considering all the ramifications can lead to situations where the end result
The state's role in romantic relationships has often been justified by “public policy” interests. The term
“public policy,” though vague, is used to justify laws or actions that would injure the public welfare or be
contrary to public decency, sound policy and good morals.
Understanding the necessity of laws that impact on our personal relationships starts with the recognition that
our society is not the first to regulate love and the law. The efforts of governments throughout history to control
the couplings of its citizens illustrates why and how our own laws were created and why and how, inevitably, they
will adapt as society changes.
The one form of marriage permitted under our laws is the only option for couples who want a legal relationship.
Happily, the single status is only a temporary situation for most Americans. Few will stop looking for love, trust,
companionship and sexual and emotional fulfillment with another person. However, couples wanting to remarry,
parents with ready-made families, couples over 65 looking for companionship without legal complications, all seek
answers from the same legal relationship.
Although divorce laws have undergone radical changes in our lifetimes, the marriage laws have remained
relatively static. Unfortunately, because couples considering marriage have many different needs, it is not
uncommon for the laws that govern marriage to conflict with these needs. Too often, couples learn too late that
financial penalties come attached to the marriage license. Marriage may be the only means of forming a legal and
financial relationship under the law but, for many, legal marriage simply implies that they must suffer penalties
to legalize their relationship.
As traditional marriage has proven less and less capable of living up to its potential in our society,
alternatives such as unmarried cohabitation have arisen. The increase in couples who choose to cohabit can be
traced to the fact that the marriage laws are not meeting the needs of these citizens in forming their personal
relationships. Although there are a variety of reasons why couples choose to “just live together,” financial
disadvantages are a major factor.
If you are previously married and considering a remarriage, you know that the older bride or groom has different
needs than the young couple entering a first marriage. The responsibilities and obligations from prior marriages,
particularly when children are involved, cannot be ignored. Men and women over fifty who have minor children fight
the same uphill battle as younger couples do in defining and fulfilling their obligations of visitation, custody,
support, and inheritance. These problems create stress for the old family, as well as the new, upon remarriage.
Even without children, it is possible that obligations to former spouses can impact a new marriage. Older
couples must consider the potential loss of private pensions, alimony, social security benefits or tax advantages
because of a remarriage. Also important is the issue of inheritance of assets that may have taken a lifetime to
accumulate. Older couples may want to limit their financial obligations to each other in the areas of support,
medical costs, insurance, and pension benefits.
If you are a refugee from the marital wars, you learned the hard way about precautions that could have been
taken the first time and should be taken the next. The happily married couple doesn't need to learn from
experience; they, too, can benefit from the information in this book. If you are one of the lucky couples who has
beat the odds and stayed married, we want to show you how to continue to protect and preserve your
relationship...and your money.