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Chronic depression - how to cope and avoid it during divorce. Consumer debt - a very common reason for divorce explored. Coping with the family law process - life becomes very complicated during a divorce. Coping with infertility - perhaps one of the sadest reasons for a relationship breakdown. Credit and divorce - can obtaining credit after divorce be easy. Deciding on divorce - not the easiest decision you can make. Defending your relationship - this is your right - getting by is not enough. Discovering infidelity - one of the most hurtful aspects to a relationship. Divorce advice - where to get it. Divorce and bankruptcy - so many financial failures but why. Divorce and the stock market - strange mixture but interesting. Divorce articles - are they of value. Divorce decision - right or wrong you now have to live with it. Divorce online - will they save you time and money. Divorce parenting mistakes - so common now during divorce. Divorce protection for women - are they better at it than men. Divorce secrets - have they exposed the truth about divorce. Eating disorders - can this be a reason for divorce. Emotional roller coaster - life during divorce really is a state of highs and lows. End of your marriage - some interesting perspectives. Essence of infidelity - is there such a thing. Family cycle - Understanding the stages of life. Family law - This is a specialist subject. Fighting the good fight - are you motivated by this. Get a prenuptial agreement - will this safeguard your assets. Getting a jewish divorce in the UK - is this easier than you think. Have an affair - can this be good for a relationship. Hidden divorce costs - can be reduced for the informed. Hire a divorce lawyer - are they worth their money. Holy matrimony - is this a declining institution. How to grieve a tragedy - divorce is just like any other family tragedy. How to recover from divorce - some tips & tricks to get going in life again. How to select a divorce lawyer - steps to do and things to avoid. How to survive a divorce - can this be done without too much damage. Impact of divorce on families - this is often a tragedy all round. Important papers - secure documents before the separation. Is she cheating - can the husband tell. Keep hope alive - positive thinking can be a very useful cure. Lawful divorce - great discussion. Life after divorce - some ways to cope and how to get on. Lost that loving feeling - very common in longer term relationships. Love discrimination - is this an explanation for divorce. Managing your step family - a very tight path to tread. Marriage counseling - is this a life saver or just delaying tactics. Marriage fairy tale - there are millions every year - why not you. Marriage problems - we all have them at some stage but is this justification for a divorce. Meaningful holidays - one way for maintaining a healthy relationship. Miscommunication - men and women are from different planets aren't they. Moving beyond grief - tips for moving on in life. Online dating after divorce - is this the modern option for finding that new partner. Online dating - can it replace the work or pub environment. Out grown your life - quite a common feeling that creates the ned for change. Parental conflict - how this can effect the children during divorce. Pay off your debts - should this be before or after a divorce. Potty training after divorce - the simple things in life can even be affected by a divorce. Prenuptial agreement dilemma - are they as water tight as you think. Relationship spring cleaning - a great one liner that says so much. Sanction of marriage - good discussion but a bit deep. Seduction of a married man - men are so easy to seduce aren't they. Sexless marriage - can such a thing exist. Should I consult a therapist - are they of value during a divorce. Should I get a divorce - can this ever be your own decision. Signs of infidelity - can you spot them in your partner. Single parent - you are now a statistic so has your status in life been lowered. Spare your kids the stress of divorce - do everything you can - they will benefit in the end. Surviving divorce - why do we need to simply survive it - why not celebrate it. Tax records - destroy them at your peril after a divorce. Things to consider in divorce - simply too much. Too many divorces - is it too easy these days. Two hearts - beat stronger than one. Valentines day ideas - how you can enjoy the day as well as a newly divorced person. What parents should do - your personal check list. Why men wont commit - is this an urban myth.
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Divorce Law Guide Articles.Five Christmas Survival Tips For The Divorced & Single Parent
Five Christmas Survival Tips For The Divorced & Single Parent For the over 50% of marriages that end in divorce, Christmas can be a hugely trying time. Since the season is one of the most stressful times of the year anyway, this onslaught of raw emotion to the divorcee can be overwhelming. This is reflected in the Christmas surge of suicide rates. The feelings are that much more intense if there are kids involved. I know for myself, nothing could have prepared for me for the crushing sadness I felt during my first post-divorce Christmas. As a father of two young girls, it was like I was emotionally disconnected from everyone. The joy of the season was something I just switched on, for brief periods, when my little girls were at my house leading up the holidays. When they would leave until their next visit, the joyful glow of the Christmas lights and Christmas tree seemed to turn cruel and I would turn it all off. It seemed I had an inverse reaction to the level of season joy around me: the higher it was, the worse I felt. Going to the shopping malls, alone, just intensified the feelings of disconnect, as I watched parades of children that weren’t mine, going through the usual excited frenzy. I remember sitting on my couch, alone in the dark, watching movies on Christmas Eve, counting down the hours until the girls arrived on Christmas Day at Noon. In the middle of the night of that first Christmas Eve, I reached my lowest of lowest and for the briefest of seconds, dark thoughts crossed my alcohol free mind about putting an end to the pain. Mercifully, I did nothing except scare myself. In fact, because now I appreciated how intense all of the feelings were, I knew I needed a plan to get through the season the next time. From that point on, I came up with the following five step plan. Step 1 – Do not be alone. You have to reach out and ask for support, from family, friends or whoever. The Crisis Line is always there to re-assure you (I know). Step 2 – Know you are not alone and connect with other people in your same circumstance. I met several people over the next year, male and female, who were in the same boat as I was. We actually had a house party on Christmas Eve the next year because no one had their kids. Everyone had a few laughs, cursed the Exs and yearned for their kids, together. It actually was a great feeling to be in that group. Step 3 – Do not feel guilty. Your kids are enjoying two Christmas celebrations instead of just one. What kid wouldn’t love that? Step 4 – Give to charity or volunteer at the Food Bank. This really helped me appreciate that even in my sadness, I still had food and a home and there were people way worse off then I was. Step 5 – Don’t be so hard on yourself. From the time we were kids, the Christmas season commercial frenzy creates a ton of expectations in all of us. During divorce, with your own kids jumping between houses, those expectations become very difficult if not impossible to maintain. This compounds the feeling of being a failure because you cannot emotionally keep pace with the joy you see around you. That can be further complicated by the game of trying to keep up with whatever your Ex Spouse is able to provide for kids during the season. This one can be really hard too. Over my 5 single Christmas seasons, I learned a whole new way of appreciating the season. I started to celebrate the fact that I was surviving on my own, learning to live my life differently and being a fantastic father every 2nd week. Christmas became less about gifts and more about patting myself on the back for keeping it all together. That attitude shift made a world of difference. I truly learned that the biggest gift you can give the people around you, especially your kids, is your own survival. That’s what they’ll always remember.
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